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Releasing criticism

Releasing criticism

August 6, 2017
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During the Christmas holidays I took long solitary walks along the beaches off the coast of Vejbystrand, where my mother lives. Beautiful landscape, highly varying weather, and great podcasts to keep me company, vejbystrandwhen I didn’t feel like walking in silence.

One of the podcasts I listened to was this one, the Good Life Project-interview with Tara Sophia Mohr, who said something to the likes of this:

Feedback tells me nothing of me, and everything about the person giving it. 

And I stopped in my stride. Went back on the podcast, and listened again, and yup, that’s what she said, Tara. That the feedback she get’s tells her everything about the feedback-giver, and nothing about herself.

Wow. I giggled a little to myself, and could imagine the amount of energy I’ve wasted on fully diving headlong into someone else criticism and feedback about me – taking it for truth. Scary almost, now that I think of it.

Now, she made it clear, that just because she doesn’t believe feedback tells her something about her, that she’s not interested in hearing it. On the contrary, she’s extremely interested in it – just because it tells her so much about those she’s interacting with.

Come to think of it, it’s been a while since I listened to this episode of Good Life Project, and I think I might take my own recommendation and re-listen to it the upcoming week.

What do you make of her statement? Agree? Disagree?

In 2015 I ran a series on herothecoach.com with Sunday postings of podcasts to my liking. In 2017 I will be re-posting some of those blog posts, or posts with other podcast recommendations – and this is one of them, originally posted here – , mixing them up with new podcast recommendations. 

 

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Headspace-hiccup

August 4, 2017
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headspace from 800+ to 1As I did my daily morning Headspace-meditation, my runstreak was reset from 800+ days to 1. Oh well. Perhaps I forgot yesterday? I might well have. Thing is, I can’t check. The Headspace-app allows me to see my Headspace-journey, but only what sessions I’ve done in which order, not the time/date for each (or at least, the last one). I know I did my 800th meditation in a row on Tuesday because I screenshotted and Instagrammed that joyous occation. I did the same today (less joyous though it might have been), and figure I will simply get back on the horse, but have a small nagging sensation of having done a quick Restore-session yesterday morning as well, so I sent off a rambling email to Headspace Support.

I’ve been meaning to email Headspace since the new update anyway, asking for a time/date-stamp and point out the oddity of their rewards-system which I don’t think is in sync with what seems resonable to be the general aim of Headspace (getting people to meditate, daily. Period.), so I added that (that’s the rambling part) to my general question:

Hi,
My Runstreak was reset today and I have a faint memory of doing a quick Restore-session yesterday (ie Thursday the 3rd of August). However as its still n o t possible to get the time stamp in my Journey (please add this! A feature like that in iMessage or Messenger – hold and time/date appears) I wonder if it was actually the 2nd that I did the last session previous to my quicky today (restore Friday 4th).

The o n l y good thing about having lost my runstreak of 800 days is that I will actually get some rewards again – you do Realize you are actually rewarding people for not keeping to their runstreak by sending out give-away-headspace for 15-30-90 etc up to 365 days and then zip, nada, zilch. And I don’t even get a Goal for my efforts. Oh well. Going slightly off topic here but as I wrote I might as well give you what’s in my mind. The old buddy-visual was better than the new one also, but thanks for re-adding buddy-runstreak at least.

Hoping to hear from you,
Helena

A while ago, I got into my head thinking “how awful it would be if I lost my pretty and long Headspace runstreak, which is so much moore impressive than it was last time I lost it“, so even though I bothered with sending the email, I am not upset, but rather am quite happy at observing my reaction at seeing the number 1 in my runstreak: Oh well. I must have forgotten to Headspace yesterday.

Not beating myself up. Not blaming myself for being stupid to loose my runstreak. Nothing of the sort. Just a simple “Oh well”, knowing it doesn’t really mean anything. I will continue doing my Headspace, because I like giving myself the gift of a few minutes that are mine, solely mine, each day.

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