the welfare of the children

the welfare of the children

June 30, 2020
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I read a book. A book about a father who is suddenly –by the mother– refused the right to be with his two children, and what follows has me frustrated to pieces.

One reason for my frustration is that I have two friends who’ve gone through more or less the same thing, where the system(s) just seems totally inadequate and incapable of actually doing what the Swedish systems claim to do: Put the welfare of the children first. This is (supposed to be) valid for the school system, the social services, the police, the courts, all of the Swedish systems put in place to serve its citizens.

When I read the last page, I grabbed my computer and started to write. And was surprised at what I wrote, because it wasn’t the frustration from witnessing my two friends getting stuck in the quagmire of custody hearings, meetings with the schools and the social services, and what not that started to pour out…

No. What came out was my own frustration from my experiences of an adoption process, taking place in 2008-2009, when my second husband adopted my firstborn, with the blessing of the biological father, my first husband.

It surprised me. I wasn’t aware that this is at the root of why I am drawn to try to aid my friends, or really, anyone, getting caught and entwined in the barbed wire of the system. Because it can truly be detrimental. And I don’t see that it’s actually benefitting anyone.

So once more, putting fingers to keyboard informs me, greatly. I see me. Discover more, of me. Pieces hidden. Forgotten. Deliberately shunned. And… perhaps also pieces of me that are so brand-new, they are like a minuscule fetus, well-protected deep within the flesh of my body, my psyche, my being?

(The book’s in Swedish, and the post as well, but I might translate it. If you want to read it?)

#tankespjärn, for those who wish to discover. More. Other. New.
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Advent Calendar – December 17, 2019

December 17, 2019
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Does money grow on trees?
Well… no. Of course, they don’t.
Yet, in a sense, they actually do!

When I started this calendar, I wrote how I, in 2015, “came home” when I found a way to put my savings into trees. End November 2019, I got my first return on the trees I bought four years ago, and it’s as if it was yesterday… The return I got was basically worth a week’s wages. And sure, I could have used the money with Christmas around the corner, but I actually bought new trees instead. You see, I have a long-term plan with this! As I am saving money, in reality, what I am giving myself is time.

Time? Yes!
With a week’s wages, I could take an extra week off work if I wanted to, without it affecting my finances. As I’ve bought trees every year since 2015, the return will increase yearly as well, like an automatic money-making-machine. In another three to five years, the cost of buying trees will equal the return I get. The year after that, that’s when I will be giving myself that extra time, to live, to love, to laugh!

In 2020, I will get my second return from the trees I bought in 2015, as well as the first from the trees of 2016. Two week’s wages! In 2021, three week’s wages, and by 2024, I could have an extra month of vacation without it having a negative impact on my financial situation. Do the math; the return keeps on coming for a total of 15 years, starting the fourth year after the trees are bought. So yeah, money d o e s grow on trees!

The years fly by!
And sure… five years can feel like an eternity, not to mention ten! But stop and pause for just a second, and think back. Twenty years ago, I was a new mom, and now that kid of mine is more than ready to leave the nest! Hard to imagine, I remember caring for my tiny baby as if it was yesterday…

And do you remember when the Icelandic cloud of ashes put a halt to all flights in northeastern Europe? That was in 2010. Close to ten years ago. I remember it well as my oldest niece was in the US at the time and had to stay for a couple of extra weeks before being able to fly back home to Europe.

In 2015 the gruesome images of three-year-old Alan Kurdi, washed up drowned on a beach in Turkey trying to flee Syria with his family, finally pushed me over the edge to apply to become a legal guardian for unaccompanied minors, a position I’ve held ever since.

That’s why I want to make the most of my time.
Now, I’ve more or less stopped buying unnecessary things. I don’t need a lot. So I am not looking at creating a money-making-machine so I can use it on shit and stuff. Honestly, I hardly shop at all, not even Christmas gifts! Except for trees, that is. Those trees will help me (and my kids! I buy as many trees for them, as I do for myself.) buy myself time and freedom. Time for that which truly matters: My loved ones. Family. Friends.

If you or someone you know is interested in saving in trees, contact me and I will explain in greater detail how it works, and share how anyone can set up that money-making-machine. And remember, even though time does fly, if you buy trees before the end of the year, the return comes end November 2023. If you buy your trees come the new year, you’ll have to wait another year for it.

Advent Calendar for 2019: sharing pictures and stories/reflections from my trip to Kenya in June. I went to visit “my trees” and get a hands-on experience of the social entrepreneurship of the Kenyan forestry company that I buy trees through.

Full disclosure: I am proud to say I am both a customer and an ambassador for the company. If you are curious to find out more, let me know and I’ll gladly get in touch with you! Here’s my sponsored link: 

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Souls connecting

July 20, 2017
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Today I’ve spent the day walking in Christiania in Copenhagen with Anna and Becka, two ladies I would not know were it not for social media. Becky likes to tell the story of how she, three years ago, on her first day on Twitter, a total newbie, managed to send off a tweet, which I picked up on and immediately replied with a question if she’d like to guest blog for #skolvåren (aka #schoolspring) and the rest is history as they say. We’ve been friends ever since. But as she’s a Swedish lady living in Mexico (a Swexican!) we’ve not had an opportunity before now to meet in the flesh.Christiania

Becka and Anna also hooked up via social media, and Becka hooked me and Anna up… and yes, as you might surmise, the rest is history there as well! Me and Anna have met a number of times, as we live fairly close to each other, but today way the first time we each met Becka.Three friends meeting up in the flesh

It’s quite amazing how deep a connection can become between friends, without meeting physically. And then, when the opportunity arises to actually do meet up in the flesh – it just feels so natural, easy, like old friends meeting up after a long time apart. The connections made online deepen the connection possible upon meeting physically – this I’ve experienced time and time again, and it never ceases to amaze me. So now I sit here reflecting upon the day, with the wonderful taste of the Mexican drinking chocolate gifted to me by Becka in my mouth, and a warm happy feeling within.Mexican Chocolate

Across oceans, continents, time zones – souls connect regardless!

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