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Advent Calendar 21 – Invest in yourself

Advent Calendar 21 – Invest in yourself

December 21, 2018
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I invest in me, with time and money – which actually is time as well. Every krona I spend comes from the time I’ve spent doing work for my customers, billing them and then paying my own salary. I invest a lot in me. The investments I make in myself is how and what I “feed myself”, both mentally, emotionally and physically.

Mentally I feed myself deliberately by listening to podcasts, reading books (94 read so far this year, with a goal of – at least – 100!) and initiating and partaking in conversations of the most diverse kind. I have just hired a new coach and I am investing a lot in myself by retaining him. Feels great! This all helps my mind expand, providing me with more perspectives than ever before, making me more prone to be able to flip things around and not go for the most obvious answers. Building a world of infinite greyscale (the color of wisdom, mind you!) rather than black and white.

Being a part of Mastermind-groups and having colleagues to discuss things with is both a mental and emotional investment. And of course, spending time with those I love is an emotional investment, one that I would like to invest a bit more in, come to think of it.

Physically I invest in myself by doing my morning exercise (today was day 1587 in a row!), biking most everywhere, going for walks (I never suggest lunch or fika-meetings, always suggesting Walk N Talks instead, and CoachTalks for my coaching clients.), jogging once a week and just recently starting to dance lindy hop. I drink my daily green smoothie and love my ginger shot, eating vegetarian food (which works fabulously for me) trying to stay away from food where the contents, the ingredients, aren’t easily understood.

These are but a few of the investments I make in me – and guess what? It feels amazing! And I reflect on what I do to invest in myself now and again because just because I’ve invested in a certain way for a long time, doesn’t necessarily mean that it still is an investment worth the time. Perhaps the return on investment has diminished, perhaps it’s no longer a return I value?

Do you invest in yourself? If so – how? With what? And what’s the return on investment you get from it? And if not – why? What signals does that send, to both you and others?


Advent Calendar 2018 – number 21 of 24 – on the theme of being gentle.

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Wealth Warrior: The Personal Prosperity Revolution (book 5 of 26)

March 11, 2018
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Wealth warriorHaving met Steve Chandler as well as having listened to many of his audios (one of which, the one on Expectations vs Agreement has made a huge difference in my life!), Wealth Warrior: The Personal Prosperity Revolution reads in my mind the way he talks; this is Steve, straight up. And I really enjoy it.

Great literature this is not – but it sure is a great book! It’s easy to read, I get to laugh and smile quite often, and all the while, there’s this really important message sent, that I for one definitely receive: ACT. Or to quote the author himself: The transformation is in the actions you take. 

As I read, I see that to a large part, I do what Steve does. I use me. I am the tool I use, my experiences, my insights, my struggles, fears, stumbling blocks and aha-moments. All of what I am, all that I have been through, that’s what I use, when I am in service (the concept all of Steve Chandler‘s work centers around, service in his view being all about helping someone else, assisting another person, and delivering actual value). Steve does the same. And he is so generous, doesn’t hold back at all, neither in his books, audios or at trainings. He gives freely of himself, the up’s and the down’s, the pro’s and the con’s. And in doing that, he is gifting us all the act of being human, because that is the spectrum that the human experience span – from the high’s to the low’s, from us being at our very worst, to our very best. All of it. To me, that is inspiring. It’s also something I’ve gotten much better at enjoying – I mean: all of life, and truly, all of it. From the part that has me sobbing my heart out, to the part that has me laughing so hard I almost wet my pants. All. Of. It.

And one of the things that has enabled me to use myself and my experiences this way, is my transformed relationship to change. Generally speaking, it’s no longer something I shy away from, rather the opposite. Steve writes:
All change occurs outside your comfort zone.
This is true physically, mentally, spiritually and financially. No change can occur inside your comfort zone.
Push your body past the weight it is comfortable lifting and it will grow stronger. Push your self past its own comfort zone and you will grow stronger.

Mentally and spiritually, stepping outside of my comfort zone is something that I do. Regularly. Physically, well, more and more. I mean, hey, I did the running race in the fall, have started to run every week, as well as doing my daily Seven for no less than three and a half years in a row (!). Challenging myself physically is definitely on my this-I-want-to-do-more-of-list, so what about financial challenges? Well. I am on it, that’s for sure. Divorce is almost finalize now, and of course that has a financial impact. So it’s definitely something I am looking into seriously at the moment – taking great care not to do “serious as in no laughs” but rather “serious as in scheduling time to dig down deep and doing the math”.

The book I am blogging about is part of the book-reading challenge I’ve set for myself during 2018, to read and blog about 26 Swedish and 26 English books, one book every week, books that I already own.

 

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