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Whatever happened to those 12 books?

Whatever happened to those 12 books?

January 15, 2021
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On January 4th, 2020, I posted a post on 12 English books to read in 2020. At the same time, I picked 12 books in Swedish ones too. This was the third time I chose a given set of books to read, as a way to actually read those unread books already in my possession.

For the first time, I did  n o t  follow through.

I read ten of the English, ten of the Swedish, leaving two + two unread, and those I just might donate/give away, because even though they spoke to me at the beginning of 2020, they sure didn’t for the duration of the year, and still don’t. On the other hand, two of the books I did read were really good, and I’ve already started to reread Women Who Run With the Wolves, because it is simply that good. Being Wrong is also a book I know I will reread in years to come.

Given how good I am at living up to internal (as well as external) expectations, you might be entertaining questions such as:

What happened to her, why didn’t she follow through?

She’s loosing it, isn’t she? I mean, she couldn’t even live up to this publicly displayed reading challenge. 

Or, for that matter, you might be thinking:

Oh. My. God. She’s human, after all! 

She must be feeling so upset at not living up to this promise!

The thing is, I neither feel I am loosing it, nor do I feel upset. Not even close. On the contrary.
My strong Upholder-tendency is simply being tempered, fine-tuned, used by me with more discernment, specifically what to let go of, even though it might be something that’s served me in the past. If it doesn’t any more, it’s Bye Bye! So if anything, that’s what happened.

The fact that I can temper this tendency, and that I should temper it, might be one of the more important lessons I grasped in 2020. So for this year, I haven’t, and won’t, do a repeat of this practice. I do have an intention to reread books in 2021 though, books that have made a big impact in me, for any number of reasons. And even though I shot way past my Goodreads reading challenge of reading 65 books last year (I read 88), I set the same target, 65 books in 2021.

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Yesterday I went on a strike.

April 21, 2020
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Yesterday I went on a strike.

I. Did. Not. Blog.

I just didn’t feel like it. I had nothing on my mind worth saying, and no inkling of what I might come up with, and… most importantly, no desire to.
So I let myself off the hook and simply did not blog.

It’s not much of a strike really, but given the ease with which I stick to habits, deliberately not sticking to them once in a while is more of a stretch for me than sticking to them. So, in a sense, by not blogging I was putting myself on the spot, not letting myself off the hook as much as getting me on it, because it takes more for me to break a habit than stick to it.

And I need that.
Once in awhile, I need – want! Thrive on! – to stir the pot, to surprise me by not going on routine and habit, but deliberately, consciously, with engaged awareness, question my habitual choices. Like daily 1) blogging 2) morning seven-minute exercise 3) deep-breathing-practice 4) 10+ kilometers in my body, and a number of other things I do daily or weekly.

Do my habitual practices a l w a y s serve me?

Are there moments when I am best served by not doing them?

What happens to me when I do them without really wanting to? W
ithout being present to what I am doing?
Do they still serve me then?

Is there a threshold when habits go from serving to not-serving, perhaps even becoming harmful?
And what does it take for me to pick up on that?

Who do I need to be, in order to give me the nourishment I need, when what I need shifts?

So many questions.
And luckily, no need to actually answer them as such, but rather, just to let them be. Throw them out there, and see, if anything comes back to me. An answer? Another way to look at things? A new question, deepening my reflection?


#tankespjärn, for those who wish to discover. More. Other. New.
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The 4MAT model: Why? What? How? What if?

April 11, 2019
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Why do I do daily Facebook Lives?

That’s a question I got asked today, based on the 4MAT model and the four basic questions of: Why? – What? – How? – What if?

I know why I do what I do, but getting the question made me reflect on what I do, and how I do it, and if I am clear enough with my why. Which I apparently am not. So I gave it a long rambling go in today’s Facebook Live, but for you who would rather read the quick and easy version as to what my Why is, here it goes: Making a positive imprint.

FB Live #162 🇬🇧 – What’s my Why with these lives?

FB Live #162 🇬🇧 – What’s my Why with these lives?Using the 4MAT model.

Publicerat av Helena Roth Torsdag 11 april 2019

 

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What’s your superpower?

February 20, 2019
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What’s your superpower?, Dave asked the participants of the Reignite your business challenge. I jotted down a few notes, and realized that I am not sure that I know what my superpower is, given that my superpower is likely something that comes so natural to me, something I just do, something I just am, rather than actually know I do/am.

So I asked a few well-chosen people, and got some great answers back, mirroring me in the best of ways. What they told me I will be pondering, reflecting and likely write about as well.

But not now.
Not yet.
All in due time.

Facebook Live #112 🇬🇧🇱🇷 – What’s your superpower? 💪🏼

Facebook Live #112 🇬🇧🇱🇷 – What’s your superpower? 💪🏼#ReigniteYourBusiness #superpower

Publicerat av Helena Roth Onsdag 20 februari 2019

But I am curious though – what’s your superpower? Does the question raise as many follow-up questions for you as it does for me (as apparent from the Facebook Live)?

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