relationships

Speaking my truth

Speaking my truth

June 11, 2017
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Rather than solve my issue with my podcast-player, I’ve started to listen to podcasts in another app, and hence, have a backlog of episodes to listen to from my favorite podcast shows, such as On Being and Good Life Project. Pressed play on the GLP-show with Glennon Doyle Melton, and felt now and again as if she’s speaking my thoughts, my feelings, my fears, my beliefs and wishes. She is, in many ways, speaking my truth. How odd! And cool, at the same time.

elderberry flowersThis is one of those times I wish GLP had transcripts of their shows, so I could serve you up a number of those hitting-me-straight-in-the-heart quotes by Glennon, but alas… I simply hope you will do what I did, and listen. I went elderberry flower-picking this evening, to make cordial, and had Glennon and Jonathan Fields accompany me.

She gives me cause to reflect upon relationships, on writing, on intimacy and being transparent, and about doing the next right thing, without explaining myself to others. And as I cannot stop myself from pressing play once again, here are a few snippets that speaks to me:

Relationships are hard work, because they make us face our stuff. 

I wanna figure out how to be my most intimate self with my most intimate relationships.

To do the next right thing and then not explain myself. The first step is to do it without first asking for permission, or consensus. […] The most bad-ass thing that a woman can do is just not explain herself.

In 2015 I ran a series on herothecoach.com with Sunday postings of podcasts to my liking. In 2017 I will be re-posting some of those blog posts, mixing them up with new podcast recommendations, such as this one. 
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My sounding boards

September 20, 2016
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Have you noticed how some thoughts can sound perfectly wise inside our heads, and when we finally share them with someone, it’s as if we see them for the first time, and we get to see how warped our thinking has been?

I think we all need that. A sounding board. Someone to sound off the thoughts within our head with. Helping us see them. Someone who mirrors what we think, and reflects it back to us. Someone who’s not emotionally involved, and hence can take another perspective, elevating our own understanding and wisdom. Opening up for what wants to happen, rather than getting stuck in petty thoughts of jealousy, anger or the urge to lash out at some perceived wrong-doing.

Sometimes all it takes is someone who listens to me for me to step out of the drama and return to a state of open mind, heart, will, that state that I firmly believe is our baseline. That’s what we are built for.

I have several sounding boards. And at times when life throws me curve ball after curve ball, I get to reap the rewards of having created relationships as close, loving and accepting such as the ones I am thinking of as I sit here writing this post. And I exhale, slowly, letting my shoulders drop, knowing I am being held in a warm embrace of love.

held loved

Held. Loved.

Exhaling, I release my gratitude into the world, for the relationships I have co-created with such wonderful people. My sounding boards. In times of need. Just as I am theirs, when they need one and turn to me.

To hold, and be held.
To love, and be loved.

Thank you!

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