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A revelatory conversation on procrastination

A revelatory conversation on procrastination

September 24, 2020
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The bottom line:
Being in conversation with wise, curious and openminded people,
help me shift inner beliefs if/when they no longer serve me.

The September Zoom-call in the tankespjärn-community gathered nine souls to talk/explore/discover around the topic of procrastination. Part of what we brought up can be found in the doodle, part of it can be found within the nine souls present, part of it is likely gone with the wind, never to be touched upon again. Perhaps…

How do you define procrastination?
What’s the meaning of this word, for you?
Does it have negative connotations, or not?

Those were some questions we started off with, and then, in the way these conversations go, we ended up all over the map, which, for me, increases the chances that there will be a new perspective, a reframe, a tankespjärn somewhere to present new doors for me. Doors I get to choose whether or not I want to open, and then –next choice– to step through or not. Doors to new aspects of viewing life, of living life, of relating to myself or others.

Some of those doors read as follows:

  • procrastination, when I pick up on it consciously, holds information. For me to use or ignore, up to me. But contained within the sensation of procrastination there’s plenty of information.
  • how procrastination to most of us holds negative connotations.
  • an open-ended question/query as to whether there is a cultural aspect to procrastination: is it “a negative” in other cultures?
  • confirmation of my realization that there are more books to read than I will be able to in my lifetime (but here’s a bonus piece of tankespjärn for you: Nassim Nicholas Taleb has, since his teens, spent between 30-60 hours a week (!) reading. That’s massive!). The books that made it onto the doodle were AntifragileRest and Ever-Present Origin. But I swear there were a couple more mentioned…

Being in conversation with wise, curious and openminded people like these, help me shift inner beliefs if/when they no longer serve me. Given, of course, that I am open to it myself. Nothing shifts in a person with a closed mind. Nothing!


#tankespjärn, for those who wish to discover. More. Other. New.
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Doing gentle – 39 – Notice your own, and growing, awareness.

October 9, 2016
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Observing myself, and witnessing the growth in me, makes me more aware of and also very grateful for the journey I am on.

Witnessing how I’ve expanded, how I am more and more congruent with the values I hold dear. How I show up, in much the same way, whether at work, at home, at a gathering of friends, or with total strangers. How there is less difference in me, regardless of the setting I am in.

rock peopleObserving and witnessing this, have been a large part in developing my gentleness towards myself. Becoming aware that I am more gentle towards myself today, than last week, last year, last decade, makes me more invested in me. In myself. In my continuous expansion, which is how I see it for myself. If I didn’t see any difference, if there was nothing to show for the work, the energy, the care that I put into this, I might have stopped. I might have been overcome by feelings of futility, not seeing the point in it.

But I do. I do see it. I pick up on subtle things, words I say that I would not have stated in a similar situation before. The lack of a reaction, that I thought was ”how I was”, proving to me, that it was just a habit, something I picked up, and now have let go of, rather than a fixed part of my ”personality”.

So. Notice yourself, and see if you can spot your own, growing awareness.
See if you can discover your own gentleness towards yourself. Has there been a shift somewhere along the way?

Welcome to my humble abode, where the underlying tone centers around being gentle to oneself. On Sundays I share thoughts on how I do gentle, and I hope you enjoy it. If you do, please subscribe to updates so you won’t miss out on future posts in this series.

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Being gentle to me – Reflection June ’16

June 25, 2016
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When life shifts.

Have you ever thought about those shifts?
Plodding along, struggling, wrestling with trying to come to terms with this or that, dismayed and uncomfortable.
And then. A shift.
In a moment, something happens, an insight opens the gates to a new vista, something which could never be visible before, because I was not able to see it.

Being gentle to myself, both before, during and after shifts like that, now that is truly a gift!

Not hassling myself for not getting to the shift quick enough. No longer trying so hard to work it out, using logic. But rather, being ok with what is, even when what is is that “pre-shift”-state which can seen like an endless journey. Knowing, deep within me, that it will come. midsummerOr it won’t. Either way – life is what it is, and I am fine. My wellbeing has nothing to do with this. My wellbeing isn’t dependent upon me being “post-shift”. Not at all.

During the shift; being gentle to myself, welcoming whatever insight showed up. Being in full acceptance, which for me is the meaning of unconditional love.

And then moving on in life – expanding, discovering, uncovering – from a different standpoint. A shift means creating my experience of the world from a different come-from-place. Being curious. Loving. Excited. Vulnerable.

Living life. Gently.

Welcome to my humble abode, where the underlying tone centers around being gentle to oneself. I will be reflecting on a monthly basis on what that means to me, in the moment, and this is one of those reflections. I hope you enjoy it. If you do, please subscribe to updates so you won’t miss out on future reflections.

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