together

The reading retreat.

The reading retreat.

April 6, 2020
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Writing retreats, I’ve done. Alone. Together.
A day, two, three.

But never an official reading retreat.

One could argue I’ve been doing reading retreats ever since I learned how to read, because, to quote my mom, once I did I never stopped. Countless weekends I’ve spent immersed in great novels; laying away many a night, reading, totally engrossed in a story, making me experience life as a Viking slave, an Egyptian princess, a Vietnamese poet, a cave-woman, or explore the vast skies astride a flying dragon in some magical universe, similar and yet so different to my own.

But thanks to a The Creative’s Workshop-colleague writing about wanting to take time to read, I suggested she do a reading retreat, and all of a sudden, we had a date, going from idea to fruition in the space of three days. 90 minutes, over Zoom, all in all, four people, even though two sort of played a relay-game with each other, with one leaving as another entered the room. The Zoom-room.

…to be, without the intent to talk I said when we checked in prior to one reader leaving for another meetup. I’ve done many a type of meeting online, but never, truly, one where the intention was not to talk, but to be, and to read.

And I loved it.

As we shared half-time my co-creator was reminded of a quote by Lynda Barry, who has said about art-making that it’s this thing that we do alone together.

And I loved it. Alone. Together.
It felt so good. You know, like sitting in a room with a best friend, in total silence, and absolute companionship, doing whatever one pleases, but together? That’s what it felt like.

A gift.
One I want more of.

Would you like to join me sometime?

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Working together!

May 25, 2019
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As I waited for two friends to come over and help me with the garden, I wandered out in it… only to stumble upon the first giant poppy in bloom.

Oh!

Lavish.

Lush.

Lovely!

Lucky me; There are at least another 30 buds or so just raring to go!

In a few hours time, we worked the garden, sowing sugar peas, parsley, dill and kale, moving a few Jerusalem artichokes, watered and weeded, and started to get the berry patch in order, which it truly needs, not having seen a lot of love these past few years.

Three people, three hours.
What a difference it makes, from giving it a halfhearted hour or two myself, flitting from one spot in dire need to the next, without actually making a lot of progress, to working together like this! And better still, they will be coming back to help me. <3 

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Isn’t it strange?

February 15, 2018
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CompetencesI’m asked to fill out a profile page and get stuck.
Competences – mine.

What are they?

What am I good at?
Good enough at to make whatever it is worth mentioning as core competences?

Writing? Seeing the full picture; drawing quick connections?
Reading. I know I’m good at that, but I mean… that’s not something to stress, is it?

Oh well. Hopefully my friends will help me. Have sent off a few queries, in the hope that they will help me. And I think it’s easier for them, than it is for me. As it would be for me, if I was to provide five competences for each of those I asked now. No problem at all. It would be quite easy, even, I think.

Isn’t it strange that it’s so hard for me to see me, and so much easier to see you? Or is it simply a clever design of human beings? Another reason why we are better together, than apart?

Because then I can see you, can reflect back to you that which you send out, so that you can see for yourself. And you can see me, can reflect back to me that which I send out, so that I can see for myself. Stronger, smarter and more competent together, than apart. Perhaps it isnät so strange, after all.

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Divided or united?

January 24, 2017
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unites us

I’ve had this quote as the locked-screen-saver on my IPhone for the past two weeks, and everytime I look at it, I am reminded. Remind about love, of the power of unity, of togetherness and of how much more I can accomplish when I don’t go at it alone.

So. I don’t. Go at it alone.
I go. With you. Together.

In love!

 

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Doing gentle – 14 – Let yourself off the hook

April 17, 2016
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You don’t have to be wise and all-knowing all the time. You don’t have to take on the injustices of the entire world, just because you, in your clearest moments, can see them, and know deep within your heart what is needed to make the world a better place.

It’s not on you. It’s not your responsibility. Let yourself off the hook. off the hook

And know this: It’s a work to be done together, by us all. We all play a part in creating the world, moment by moment, and when one person falters, someone else will pick up the slack, making sure the chain isn’t broken.

We’re in this together, and no individual is responsible for it all. That’s not what being gentle to oneself means. Being gentle means seeing my part as part of the whole, and knowing that as humans, we do stumble, falter, make mistakes and royally screw up, once in a while. Don’t beat yourself up over that. If you didn’t screw up once in a while – why would you still be here, on earth, having a human experience? You wouldn’t, in my view. Being human means just that. We screw up. Sometimes big, sometimes small. What matters is what we do afterwards. Take responsibility for your mistakes, and learn from them. Maybe you’ll avoid that mistake in the future, maybe you can help someone else who’s in the same mess you were before. Use it. Wisely.

Together we can cover for each other.

Welcome to my site, where the underlying tone centers around being gentle to oneself. On Sundays I share thoughts on how I do gentle, and I hope you enjoy it. If you do, please subscribe to updates so you won’t miss out on future posts in this series.

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