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From me to me

From me to me

January 31, 2018
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from me to meThe other day I took part in a conversation amongst precious souls, my circle of Camp fire sisters, that meet up about once a month over Skype. As always, deep connection took place, as we each shared what wanted to be heard.

Afterwards, Mayke sent us all this amazing piece of writing, spurred on by the virtual camp fire-conversation. I asked her if she could not release this text into the world, and if she didn’t have a place for that, that I’d love to feature her as a guest blogger here. So, without further ado, I give you:

From me to me, by Mayke Vullings

Some words, from me to me:

Today I am

In a child’s carousel

Twirling around in endless circles

The laughter long gone

Loudspeakers on full force

Bombarding my ears

With questions I cannot answer

Shouting my inadequacies for everyone to hear

Blocking deep truth I lost touch with

I am lost

In thoughts who keep me prisoner

Dictating a perspective

That leaves no space to breath

Now frantically looking for a way out

 

My friend whispers: that is the way in

Become your own Mum

Force yourself up

And go to the stove

Heat the water

Pour yourself a hot cup of tea

Sit down wrap your hands around the cup

Follow the steam with your eyes

As thoughts vapouring in thin air

walk to the couch

Cuddle into a blanket

Next to you a bottle of silence,

Your glasses and a good book to read

Breathing, breathing

Staying on this island as long as you need

 

Somewhere in the room

You know for sure –

are your ballet shoes

patiently waiting for your return

to step into

start dancing your life

again & again & again

recognizing yourself in the now

for who you truly are.

 

Amsterdam, 29th of January 2018

Mayke

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Wholeheartedness – Reflection June ’17

June 1, 2017
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A month has passed, when I could no longer deny the soft whisperings of wisdom from within. I cried, I wrote, I refused to see the obvious, as it was laid out in front of me… but with the help of good friends, I finally opened my eyes, my mind and my heart, so that I could see – with all senses – what I have been trying to deny, for some time now.

I first spoke it into the world, in a sharing circle, with three wise ladies who simply held me. No words necessary; held in a loving silence, embraced by warmth and acceptance. A safe haven to give birth to this insight.

And, like with learning to ride a bike, or learning how to read, once it’s learned – it cannot be unlearned. The same is valid here. Once I’d spoken this truth into the world, it became solid. Impossible for me to continue to ignore.

farewell. and welcomeIt’s not been a fast process. It’s taken its time. Like a child in the womb, needing nine months to develop, this too, has been a period of gestation, needing months to develop. And finally – I was ready for it. In pain, in joy; both dreading and rejoicing in the occasion.

With my whole heart, I am taking steps forward, expanding into a new reality.

Letting go; letting come.
Farewell. And welcome!

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Learn to speak your truth

August 2, 2016
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Seth Godin prompts everyone to blog every day for sixty days in the final minutes of the podcast Louder than words with John Bonini:

I would suggest that people blog every single day – you don’t even have to put your real name on it – but make a commitment every day to notice something, and write about that thing you noticed in a way that doesn’t benefit you, but benefits someone else. Do that for sixty days, without measuring, just to do it, just to see how it feels, just to be naked. My bet is, if you can start down that path, you might not end up being a blogger, but you will end up as someone who can speak their truth with more confidence. 

SeattleI started my first blog in August 2012 with the intent to do just that, write and share my observations of the world as I saw it. However, my writing was very sporadical, until I stumbled upon a Swedish 100 day blogging-challenge in January 2013. Since then, I have blogged daily, with a few exceptions (the most notable one the recent two week summer holiday I took with my family). I can’t say I’ve written with the specific purpose not to benefit me, but to benefit others. But as it turns out, it has benefitted both me and others, that I know.

For me, writing is the best self-coaching tool around, but I would not do it nearly as mush as I do due to blogging. And I wouldn’t do it as often, if I didn’t have the aim to blog daily.

So.
I blog.
Daily.

That way it’s not an issue.
It’s not even a daily choice.

It’s a choice I made once, about something that matters greatly to me. That turns daily blogging into something to execute rather than decide upon. It’s no longer a matter of having time, or having something to write about or whatever other excuse I can come up with, it’s simply something I do. Daily. Sit down, write, post and share.

I have reaped so many benefits from daily blogging, that it would make for a long bullet list. However, Seth sums it up perfectly: Blogging daily has helped turn me into a person who can speak my truth with more confidence. 

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Thoughts aren’t Truth!

March 3, 2016
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Found a great quote by Byron Katie on Facebook:Byron Katie
I don’t believe anything I think.

And I have to say, that’s one very wise woman. Because thoughts are just that, thoughts, and not Truth, which I have been prone to believe before. But they are not instructions that you have to follow, they just are. Period.

Sometimes I act on my thoughts, and sometimes I don’t, based on what serves me best in the moment. But overall, just to know, in my heart, that I do not have to believe, and act, upon the thoughts that come into my head was been the greatest revelation in my life.

And you know what, that might seem like I’ve been totally dense until I got this, and I might well have been, but while I’ve always know I don’t have to believe, and act, upon obviously “crazy thoughts” such as “Try jumping off the cliff to see if you can fly” or perhaps “I wonder what it would be like to kiss that smashingly magnificent-looking perfect stranger across the road“, I really didn’t know I didn’t have to believe, and act, upon the more unassuming – but oh so insidious! – thoughts such as “Well, so everyone says you’ve done a good job today, but really, you could really have done a bit more! I’m dissapointed in you! You’d better get your act together.” or something like “You didn’t remember to remind your child about bringing gym clothes to school today, so you’re obviously a bad mother and really need to shape up this parenting stuff, or else…“.

But I don’t have to take either as truth.
Because they are not. They just are.
What relationship do you have with thoughts?

Welcome to the English writings of Helena Roth. Since 2012 I have blogged over at herothecoach.com and this post is a sample of what I’ve been writing over the years. I hope you enjoy this #ThrowbackThursday, originally published here, and if you do, please subscribe to updates so you won’t miss out on future posts.

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