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A revelatory conversation on procrastination

A revelatory conversation on procrastination

September 24, 2020
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The bottom line:
Being in conversation with wise, curious and openminded people,
help me shift inner beliefs if/when they no longer serve me.

The September Zoom-call in the tankespjärn-community gathered nine souls to talk/explore/discover around the topic of procrastination. Part of what we brought up can be found in the doodle, part of it can be found within the nine souls present, part of it is likely gone with the wind, never to be touched upon again. Perhaps…

How do you define procrastination?
What’s the meaning of this word, for you?
Does it have negative connotations, or not?

Those were some questions we started off with, and then, in the way these conversations go, we ended up all over the map, which, for me, increases the chances that there will be a new perspective, a reframe, a tankespjärn somewhere to present new doors for me. Doors I get to choose whether or not I want to open, and then –next choice– to step through or not. Doors to new aspects of viewing life, of living life, of relating to myself or others.

Some of those doors read as follows:

  • procrastination, when I pick up on it consciously, holds information. For me to use or ignore, up to me. But contained within the sensation of procrastination there’s plenty of information.
  • how procrastination to most of us holds negative connotations.
  • an open-ended question/query as to whether there is a cultural aspect to procrastination: is it “a negative” in other cultures?
  • confirmation of my realization that there are more books to read than I will be able to in my lifetime (but here’s a bonus piece of tankespjärn for you: Nassim Nicholas Taleb has, since his teens, spent between 30-60 hours a week (!) reading. That’s massive!). The books that made it onto the doodle were AntifragileRest and Ever-Present Origin. But I swear there were a couple more mentioned…

Being in conversation with wise, curious and openminded people like these, help me shift inner beliefs if/when they no longer serve me. Given, of course, that I am open to it myself. Nothing shifts in a person with a closed mind. Nothing!


#tankespjärn, for those who wish to discover. More. Other. New.
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The world needs more of it!

February 5, 2018
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Generosity-Curiosity-Warmth-and-laughter-opennessGenerosity. Curiosity. Warmth and laughter, openness. Depth and honesty, respect, sincerity and a willingness to stay put, to not shy away from the tough and hard questions. People with enormous integrity, making me want to find out more, to listen more, to read more, about them, but more than that, I want to listen and read more by them.

Who?

An imam and a rabbi, in conversation with Krista Tippett in On Being. I start to listen to the edited version, and immediately thereafter I press Play on the unedited version. Which I then proceed to listen to yet once again. And I don’t feel satisfied yet, I’ll be relistening more, mark my words.

Krista starts the conversation thus:
It sounds like the beginning of a joke, and in truth, there’s a lot of laughter in what comes next: an imam and a rabbi walk into a conference of reform Jews. But amidst reports of rising anti-Semitism and Islamophobia, there are also friendships — and conversations like this — taking place.

Imam Abdullah Antepli and Rabbi Sarah Bassin – I listen to them, and fill up with hope. The way these two people work, and the impact they are having, one heart at a time, is just amazing. There is humility here, loads of it, these are humble people, in my view, and yet, at the same time, they are so strong, flexible and far from easy push-overs. Far from it, by the sound of it!

At one time, Imam Antepli touches on something that is well tuned to my intention for the year:

Imam Antepli: That’s really beautiful. And my biggest holy envy of Judaism is, absolutely, Shabbat. This is something — the world needs more of it. Imagine — when the world’s largest, most effective and influential religion, capitalism, is telling you, “Work more, harder. Buy more. Study harder,” there’s one voice from Sinai for 5,000 years, saying, “Once a week, don’t do that.” 

Wise words, those. The entire show is inspirational, truly. And since I started writing this post a day has passed, and I’ve listened to the show no less than five times. This is a record! And I’m not done. I’ll press Play at least once more. At least.

This – people in true conversation – is what the world needs more of. And one of the ways I use to get more of it – besides engaging in conversations myself – is to listen to On Being, still going strong as my favorite podcast!

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Doing gentle – 14 – Let yourself off the hook

April 17, 2016
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You don’t have to be wise and all-knowing all the time. You don’t have to take on the injustices of the entire world, just because you, in your clearest moments, can see them, and know deep within your heart what is needed to make the world a better place.

It’s not on you. It’s not your responsibility. Let yourself off the hook. off the hook

And know this: It’s a work to be done together, by us all. We all play a part in creating the world, moment by moment, and when one person falters, someone else will pick up the slack, making sure the chain isn’t broken.

We’re in this together, and no individual is responsible for it all. That’s not what being gentle to oneself means. Being gentle means seeing my part as part of the whole, and knowing that as humans, we do stumble, falter, make mistakes and royally screw up, once in a while. Don’t beat yourself up over that. If you didn’t screw up once in a while – why would you still be here, on earth, having a human experience? You wouldn’t, in my view. Being human means just that. We screw up. Sometimes big, sometimes small. What matters is what we do afterwards. Take responsibility for your mistakes, and learn from them. Maybe you’ll avoid that mistake in the future, maybe you can help someone else who’s in the same mess you were before. Use it. Wisely.

Together we can cover for each other.

Welcome to my site, where the underlying tone centers around being gentle to oneself. On Sundays I share thoughts on how I do gentle, and I hope you enjoy it. If you do, please subscribe to updates so you won’t miss out on future posts in this series.

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Doing gentle – 12 – Talk to a wise one

April 3, 2016
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I have my coach. wisdom
Family and friends.
Co-creators of various things, movements and business ideas.
My Mastermind-group.

Where would I be without them?
Some more instrumental in me unravelling myself, becoming who I am, than others. But all, important. Playing a vital part on this journey of mine, to rediscover my Self.

Allowing me a space to go on an inner journey of discovery and exploration. Letting me try out thoughts, phrases, feelings. State what’s important for me. What’s not. I go naked in front of them, metaphorically naked. Bare myself. Sometimes chocking to myself, as I sometimes find parts of me I wasn’t aware of. And the people I’ve chosen to share with, they can hold this. It’s not too much for them. They don’t shy away. They welcome me, all of me. Making it easier for me to welcome me, all of me, as well.

They are wise. With them and their wisdom, my wisdom can flow, expand into the unknown. Explore. Discover.

What do you have? Whom do you have?
Where do you open up your thoughts, perhaps, so you get to see them as well as someone else, someone wise. An individual, or several, whom you know hold you in a loving space, and who are also open to what shows up for them as you share?

Welcome to my new website, where the underlying tone centers around being gentle to oneself. On Sundays I share thoughts on how I do gentle, and I hope you enjoy it. If you do, please subscribe to updates so you won’t miss out on future posts in this series.

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